Arrange Marriage, or Love. Pt 2



In one of my earlier posts, I spoke about the differences and pros and cons with arrange and love marriage. Its only been 2 years since I’ve posted my thoughts and in those two years, I’ve seen most of the people I went to school with as well as have been friends with, get married. Some love, others arranged. But all of them happy with who they ended up with.

 

It’s weird to grow up with someone and the person you once knew is about to get married and settle down. That too if it’s with someone they don’t even know much about.

 

A couple of people I’ve known throughout the years, got an arrange marriage. One didn’t know the person at all until the wedding date was set. The other one was friends with the person for years but never saw them in that way. With both pros and cons about arrange marriage, the one thing that needs to be on top of the list is happiness. Even if it’s with love marriage, the most important thing to keep a marriage going is happiness. If both sides aren’t happy, then the marriage will surely fail.

 

There’s a lot of compromises in relationships when getting married. And to keep the other person happy, one always has to compromise. Not because they don’t have another choice but because their significant others’ happiness should be greater than yours.

 

What else is on my mind? To be continued…





April 17th, 2018 by Sabreena

RIP-6-12-16





lgbt

 

When something bad happens, an attack or shooting, the first blame would be on the Muslims. Without even looking at the facts, people just assume, this had to be the work of an Islamic terror group. The only thing is, they’re right. Not saying all Muslims are terrorists, but of course the ones who are, keep the religion high on the hatred list.

 

And we Muslims always wonder why we’re hated.

It’s because of idiots like these who carry on the name of terror.

 

A nightclub in Orlando was terrorized with 50 people dead on scene as 53 others are still in critical condition. Why? Because one person hated gays. Omar Mateen, 29, a security guard for a Florida court, who was actually licensed to bear arms, also bought rifles to shoot up a gay nightclub. Mateen’s father said it had nothing to do with religion. Not only was he homophobic, but he was also a Muslim. Coincidence, isn’t it? But does that really justify the fact that he killed 50 people? And of course the news will dig deeper into this. Mateen was also in an Islamic terrorist alliance. Again, not really a coincidence. This was definitely known as a terror attack, as it should be. But terrorizing in the name of Islam is just causing more uproar than trying to even the odds.

 

No matter how much we try to show that we’re not all bad, someone has to go and ruin our name. We can try our best to be the best out there, but because of people like him, Muslims are looked down upon.

 

There are many people out there who are homophobic and against LGBT, but they’re not going out taking innocent lives. Gay or not, a life is a life. We’re all entitled to our own choices and we’re definitely not in charge of who we like. Every life matters, no matter the race, religion, or sexual orientation.

Blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours shine any brighter.

 

RIP to all the innocent victims who lost their lives in the shooting. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un. (We surely belong to God (Allah), and to Him we shall return). May your souls rest in peace. ♥



June 13th, 2016 by Sabreena

Religious or Nonreligious? Muslim girls nowadays..

 

Its great when a Muslim girl starts wearing a hijab after years of being non religious, but as soon as a girl takes off her hijab and becomes “Americanized” with the short shorts and drinks in her hand, that’s when i lose respect.

I’ve seen many girls nowadays, who USED to wear hijabs. Now that they are in college they forget their religion. Hijabs gone, and the short dresses are out.

Its one thing when a girl actually starts becoming religious, and gets attached to her religion. But how do you forget it later?

Taking off the hijabs for some occasions are actually okay. But taking them off, to party and drink, which is both haram, and a disgrace.

If you wear one, and you want to party and drink, don’t pretend to wear one, and take it off as soon as the party starts. Put the drink down, put on some clothes that cover your body, and walk away.

Although, those who choose not to follow the path of Islam anymore, don’t follow it, but don’t go back to being religious when you turned your back on it the first time. Just saying.

 



January 14th, 2013 by Sabreena

Muslims looked down upon..even more..

On Wednesday, October 16 2012, a 21-year-old, Bengali guy got caught in a terrorist act, trying to blow up the New York Federal Reserve Bank, located in the heart of Manhattan, New York.

So this guy, Quazi Mohammad Rezwanul Ahsan Nafis, comes to America on a student visa and decides he wants to do something “big”. Unlike other immigrants who travel to the U.S. to study, get a career, save money to can support their family, he stated that he wants to

“shake the whole country” and “destroy America, behalf on Al Qaeda.”

So, I’m guessing he missed 9/11? I’m pretty sure the WORLD was already shaken up by that.

What really is bothersome here about this is that, his parents spent everything, all their life savings, to get their son started to a better life. Don’t forget, Bangladesh is a poor country. Well ok, not that poor, but work is hard to find, and saving for a child’s education?, even harder. Imagine what his parents are going through right now to find that their son has plotted a stupid act, that not only disgraced his family, but the whole country as well. His father believed he was devoted into his studies. Yea..probably trying to master the study of terrorism.

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October 19th, 2012 by Sabreena

9/11 – 10 years later

The view of Manhattan, NY done on a scratch paper with a match.

By Sabreena

As we all know, ten years ago today, an incident that changed New York forever. 9/11 as the day we see it. September 11, 2001, 8:46 am, Flight 11 of American Airlines crashes into the North building of the World Trade Center. 9:03 am, United Airlines Flight 77 hits the South Tower.

From where I live, I can view some of the building of Manhattan. For example the Chrysler Building, The Empire State Building, and The World Trade Center (ten years ago). I was in the third grade. I can’t remember much, but some things I can’t forget about that day. The lunch period just started as I was eating in the cafeteria when all of a sudden the teachers came down to take their classes back up into the classrooms. When my class went back to our room,

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September 12th, 2011 by Sabreena
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