Say YES to the wrong dress?

henna and heels : Braja Mandala Wedding Photography

As most girls are, we have dreamt of the perfect wedding since we learned what a wedding was. And what’s the most important thing about the wedding? The Bride of course! And her dress. The wedding is always about the bride. How she looks, what she’s wearing, who she’s marrying. So when a girl gets married, she wants it to be the perfect wedding. Wedding’s only happen once. (Depending on your personality, sometimes twice) And they’re very expensive. Sometimes the wedding dress itself costs as much as anything else at the wedding.

Before planning a wedding, I had no idea what was needed to be done. Who knew how expensive every little thing was?!

I went to a Bridal Expo in the beginning of the year. By that time, I had an idea on who and what I was looking for.

Photographer, videographer (surprisingly they’re not always working together).
Florist, not the same as stage decor.
DJ, but what kind of music does he know?
Performers, do you really wanna pay hundreds of dollars for other people to dance at your wedding?
Venue, can it hold 400 people?
Bridesmaids, don’t even get me started on that.
Color scheme, red is too loud, white is too plain.
Favors for the guests, honestly, just let them take a centerpiece especially with 400+ guests.
Transportation, does the groom come in an expensive car or a horse?
Makeup artist, I have a very very interesting story on that I’ll get to on a different post.
Shoes and jewelry to match the dress.
And of course the dress itself.

Basically, there’s so many aspects of a wedding, and every girl wants it to be perfect in every way possible.

And the most important one is the DRESS.

Now let me tell you. I’ve dreamt of the perfect wedding dress since I can remember. Every girl watching princess movies, and love movies, and they see a type of wedding dress, they mentally store that design or color or type in their minds for future use. Then they bring it into reality. Girls literally pay thousands of dollars to make sure they have the perfect wedding dress, the perfect color to match the scheme, the perfect style to match their body. Everything about that wedding dress, needs to be perfect for the girl.

So what if you spend thousands of dollars, and then be told just a month before the wedding that your dress is still not ready?

Dreams crushed.

My (now) husband thought it was no big deal, its just a wedding dress, find a replacement. And the store that was supposed to supply me the dress suggested the same.

TO FIND A REPLACEMENT FOR MY PERFECT WEDDING DRESS.

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October 1st, 2018 by Sabreena

Arrange Marriage, or Love. Pt 2



In one of my earlier posts, I spoke about the differences and pros and cons with arrange and love marriage. Its only been 2 years since I’ve posted my thoughts and in those two years, I’ve seen most of the people I went to school with as well as have been friends with, get married. Some love, others arranged. But all of them happy with who they ended up with.

 

It’s weird to grow up with someone and the person you once knew is about to get married and settle down. That too if it’s with someone they don’t even know much about.

 

A couple of people I’ve known throughout the years, got an arrange marriage. One didn’t know the person at all until the wedding date was set. The other one was friends with the person for years but never saw them in that way. With both pros and cons about arrange marriage, the one thing that needs to be on top of the list is happiness. Even if it’s with love marriage, the most important thing to keep a marriage going is happiness. If both sides aren’t happy, then the marriage will surely fail.

 

There’s a lot of compromises in relationships when getting married. And to keep the other person happy, one always has to compromise. Not because they don’t have another choice but because their significant others’ happiness should be greater than yours.

 

What else is on my mind? To be continued…





April 17th, 2018 by Sabreena

Halloween is Almost Near!

Halloween is so close! The best parts of October are the days leading up to Halloween and the day of itself. As soon as it’s over, we get into the holiday spirits of Thanksgiving and waiting for Christmas.

Well October has to be one of my favorite months! The scary adventures and haunted houses make you want to encounter a ghost, but you’ll run if you even hear or see something move that shouldn’t.

There’s something about the Halloween spirit everyone loves nowadays. Whether it’s dressing up like something you’re not, all the candy and cavities, or just going out and having fun. Although girls never seem to understand the whole “dress like something you’re not” because they always end up dressing like a slut for Halloween anyway and try to get away with a “sexy” cat costume. We get it, you’re hot. Try a zombie or something. (And of course there’s a “sexy” zombie costume).

 

Halloween is meant for scary and gruesome ideas. People like me, love gore. (Fake gore…I cringe at the sight of real blood.) The fake blood with the fake skin and the SFX makeup. That’s what you call the power of makeup!

During the regular days, girls love makeup yo look pretty. Then comes Halloween where we take all our makeup and basically just put everything on at once. Splatter the fake blood on top for a more realistic effect. Makeup definitely has some magical powers all year round.

 

Well with that said, here is a video with both gore and decency. A broken doll where someone can still look pretty with a little blood on her face.

 

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October 26th, 2017 by Sabreena

The After Lives of College Graduates



For all those who had just graduated college, what exactly are your life goals?

For most of my life, all my time spent whether it was going to school, or coming home to do school work, and even working, was somehow related to an education field. Even my recent new job, as well as my previous one, was in higher education. Though now, I don’t have to deal with students directly, which I thank God for; I’m on an actual campus this time instead of sitting in a closed office space with a table that’s 3 ft x 3 ft and no leg space whatsoever.

Now that I have a new job, what exactly am I doing with my life? I hear stories about college graduates all living their life before they actually settle down with their career and others who have the job they wanted after college graduation and already set towards a career goal. Is that really worth it?

 

It might be.

 

They say you need a bucket list that you need to complete before you die. But how many people actually create one and how many complete the tasks? I believe everyone should have more than just one bucket list. One list of things they want to do or do before college graduation, like attend a college party (without getting belligerently drunk) or study abroad. A list for after college graduation and before getting a real job. A list before getting married, and of course one after you’re married so you can complete the tasks with your partner. This way, you’re doing a little of everything and you wont have the FOMO in life.

 

But what exactly do people want to carry out before they reach their goals of graduating college and before getting married and getting a job. Because once you have a job, your freedom has a limit to what you can actually do with your life outside of your job. You may want to travel the world but without money you can’t and without a job you wont have money. Do you save that for later? Or you can do it while having a job. But that means either mini weekend vacations, or one long one per year. All your time is mostly spent at work. After you’re married, all your time will be going to your/their family.

So when do you really have the ‘time’ to go on a vacation on the other side of the world? To share the beautiful sights you see when you’re going on a road trip across the country? To meet new people and make new friends? To just relax and give time to yourself? When will you ever get around to even create a bucket list, let alone complete the ideas you have on there?

Time is really valuable. If you waste it, there’s no getting it back.

 

What’s on your bucket list?





September 22nd, 2017 by Sabreena

RIP-6-12-16





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When something bad happens, an attack or shooting, the first blame would be on the Muslims. Without even looking at the facts, people just assume, this had to be the work of an Islamic terror group. The only thing is, they’re right. Not saying all Muslims are terrorists, but of course the ones who are, keep the religion high on the hatred list.

 

And we Muslims always wonder why we’re hated.

It’s because of idiots like these who carry on the name of terror.

 

A nightclub in Orlando was terrorized with 50 people dead on scene as 53 others are still in critical condition. Why? Because one person hated gays. Omar Mateen, 29, a security guard for a Florida court, who was actually licensed to bear arms, also bought rifles to shoot up a gay nightclub. Mateen’s father said it had nothing to do with religion. Not only was he homophobic, but he was also a Muslim. Coincidence, isn’t it? But does that really justify the fact that he killed 50 people? And of course the news will dig deeper into this. Mateen was also in an Islamic terrorist alliance. Again, not really a coincidence. This was definitely known as a terror attack, as it should be. But terrorizing in the name of Islam is just causing more uproar than trying to even the odds.

 

No matter how much we try to show that we’re not all bad, someone has to go and ruin our name. We can try our best to be the best out there, but because of people like him, Muslims are looked down upon.

 

There are many people out there who are homophobic and against LGBT, but they’re not going out taking innocent lives. Gay or not, a life is a life. We’re all entitled to our own choices and we’re definitely not in charge of who we like. Every life matters, no matter the race, religion, or sexual orientation.

Blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours shine any brighter.

 

RIP to all the innocent victims who lost their lives in the shooting. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un. (We surely belong to God (Allah), and to Him we shall return). May your souls rest in peace. ♥



June 13th, 2016 by Sabreena

Arrange Marriage, or Love?





Ideally, what does one think about marriage?Indian Marriage

So, as we get older, we have responsibilities to take care of and we all want to, at a certain point of course settle down. But how do we choose who to spend the rest of our lives with?

Well, if you’re Desi/brown, and a girl, then you will definitely know what I’m going for. As for you guys, at least you have a little time on your hands in this matter. Girls need to get married like ASAP!

Girls aren’t supposed to marry at 30 like Americans. After you pass a certain age, YOU HAVE TO START LOOKING FOR SOMEONE! And if you don’t find someone to marry before you’re 30, you’re most likely never going to get married. Apparently no one likes 30 year old’s!

Me?:

I’m only 22. Didn’t even graduate college (yes, I do intend to!), and I’ve already got thrown under the “find someone to marry” bus. Although there are some people I know who already got married at the age or 22, even younger, I’m not one of them. Not that I can’t find someone (well..kinda mostly that), but because my mentality isn’t like others. I don’t care much for settling down; YET at least. There are other things that need to be done before I even start joining one of those dating websites.

Everyone should definitely have a pre-marriage bucket list!

But what irks me the most is when your parents start looking! Like okay, yes they always know the best for you, but they don’t really know the other person they’re choosing for you. They could do all the background checks they want, find out their family history, check their bank account, or even find out their blood type, but it won’t be enough until you actually get to know the person.

Now that’s arrange marriage. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against it, and honestly, I wouldn’t even mind it. Arrange marriage is like an adventure. You start off fresh some someone new. But do you really wanna spend the rest of your life with them? How do you know they’re worth it? All that money being spent on the wedding could go to a nice vacation in the Bahamas. It’s simple, you don’t know if it’s worth it! More like a trial and error sort, you just don’t get that many re-do’s. But with arrange marriage, you get to learn to love the person. Just like how you don’t choose your parents or siblings, you learn to love them and spend your life with them, well not your whole life, but most of it.

As for love marriage, you know your other’s strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, and you can tolerate the other person without killing them. (Some more than others.)

The positive side of love marriage; you already love that person. And you can always find something new about them everyday. Like when you sleep with them the first time (like literally SLEEP!) Or what it’s like to actually live with this person, if you haven’t already. The possibilities of finding new things about the other person is always endless. There will be some things you hate. Then other things that just make you fall in love all over again. Make every date feel like the first date. They accept you for you. Love should be unconditional.

As for the negative, you may start to get tired of the same thing. And the thought of spending the rest of your life with that person is, scary.

But who really decides what’s right?

Here’s a con about arrange marriages; what if you don’t even get to see the person you’re going to marry till the wedding is over?! Yeah, that would probably suck! But what if they just turns out to be utterly horrible and it ends in divorce because you two were not compatible enough to spend the rest of your lives together? What if they use your past against you? What if they just don’t accept you? But then again, what if they’re just perfect for you? What if they’re “The One“??? Ah, the joys of marrying someone you knew for a month.

They say everything is written. How much do you believe in fate?

Well, all I can say now is, let the adventure begin. Arrange marriage it is. (I can already feel the regrets.)



March 24th, 2015 by Sabreena

2015





How did you start your year?

Here’s a little makeup tutorial on how I started the new year! Enjoy!

 

 



March 14th, 2015 by Sabreena

Ignorance is a Bliss





Ignorance is a bliss. But does that mean we need to hear the brutal honesty from others? Not that you’re oblivious to how you look, but is it necessary point out the obvious?

You know what the problem is? No matter how good you look, what you do, how successful you are, someone somewhere will always have something bad to say about you. See the problem isn’t us. Its society. It’s always society and it always has been society. They tell us what to do. How to dress. What to wear. How skinny you really should be. But lets face it, its society’s fault anyone is really…fat. Should there really be a McDonald’s in every block? Well all food franchises are trying to do is get customers right? Make the food delicious and fatty enough to get people to come back for more. Even if we don’t have any fatty foods everyday or even once a month, some people aren’t capable of controlling their metabolism. It’s called genes. Whether you like it, or even want it or not, we as human beings aren’t able to control our cravings. We want what we want when we want it!

BUT we do have the choice to transform ourselves into what we want to look like. What size we want to be. Some people are happy the way they are. Some people aren’t happy the way other people are. Does this mean we have criticize them? Call them name and differentiate them from others? So what someone is fat? Does that really needed to pointed out? Why put a mirror in front of them? I’m sure they’ve looked at their reflection just that morning thinking the same thing, and just hoping no one else notices. I’m sure no one is as ignorant as the person pointing it out.

America is FAT. I think we established that in the Olympics a couple of years ago when America’s main sponsor was McDonald’s!

 

And yes, we do have the ability to change ourselves. Become thinner and bony like those models, WHO NEVER EAT! But has it ever occurred to you that maybe we don’t want to change because we are happy the way we look? No one seems to put that in consideration.

No matter what you label someone for the way they look. The smallest word is just as effective. “Thick, chubby, chunky, fat, obese.” Even to those who start harassing skinny people for being TOO THIN. It’s not their fault they have a fast metabolism. They can eat and eat and eat and never gain a pound. That’s how their body works. And others eat and gain, because their metabolism is as slow as a snail. But here’s the thing, we are entitled to our own decisions and life choices, to our own futures, so why must your opinion even be necessary?

Real men go for curves, only dogs go for bones. 

No, real men go for whatever the f**k they want. And when they do, they don’t complain about having too much on the table. They don’t tell you to change or even point out your flaws. Real men respect women. And if by any chance a girl has a guy who even accidentally says something about them on the way they look, best believe it wasn’t their first time thinking that! Yes, it accidentally came out of their mouth, but other times, at least they kept it in.

If someone wants to eat, let them eat whatever they want. If someone wants to be fat, by all means let them eat chips and dips all day and gain all the pounds they want. Who are we to judge the life they live? Do yourself and others a favor, and keep your opinions to yourself. And guys, be careful what you say to a girl. Girls don’t forget.

“Eat whatever you want. And if someone tries to lecture you about your weight, eat them too!”

 



December 20th, 2014 by Sabreena

Makeup pt2!

Get the perfect eyebrows! Without actually getting your eyebrows done!

Hey guys, this is for all the lazy people who fail to get their eyebrows done every two weeks like they’re supposed to, like me. Well I’ve got just the video to cover up your eyebrows with makeup that way you can go at least a few more weeks without having to do them.

Anyways here’s the video! Enjoy!

 

 



December 18th, 2014 by Sabreena

Makeup!

Nowadays, most girls are experimenting with makeup. Some put way too much, others, not enough. When we need to learn something new, of course we go on YouTube and search for new videos to help us, change our style. Well, here’s a simple makeup tutorial for a faded smokey eye. Hopefully this helps those who have struggled to do smokey eyes. If you want to start light, this faded version will help you slowly work towards a bolder smokey eye look. Enjoy!



December 16th, 2014 by Sabreena
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