Arrange Marriage, or Love. Pt 2



In one of my earlier posts, I spoke about the differences and pros and cons with arrange and love marriage. Its only been 2 years since I’ve posted my thoughts and in those two years, I’ve seen most of the people I went to school with as well as have been friends with, get married. Some love, others arranged. But all of them happy with who they ended up with.

 

It’s weird to grow up with someone and the person you once knew is about to get married and settle down. That too if it’s with someone they don’t even know much about.

 

A couple of people I’ve known throughout the years, got an arrange marriage. One didn’t know the person at all until the wedding date¬†was set. The other one was friends with the person for years but never saw them in that way. With both pros and cons about arrange marriage, the one thing that needs to be on top of the list is happiness. Even if it’s with love marriage, the most important thing to keep a marriage going is happiness. If both sides aren’t happy, then the marriage will surely fail.

 

There’s a lot of compromises in relationships when getting married. And to keep the other person happy, one always has to compromise. Not because they don’t have another choice but because their significant others’ happiness should be greater than yours.

 

What else is on my mind? To be continued…





April 17th, 2018 by Sabreena

Muslims looked down upon..even more..

On Wednesday, October 16 2012, a 21-year-old, Bengali guy got caught in a terrorist act, trying to blow up the New York Federal Reserve Bank, located in the heart of Manhattan, New York.

So this guy, Quazi Mohammad Rezwanul Ahsan Nafis, comes to America on a student visa and decides he wants to do something “big”. Unlike other immigrants who travel to the U.S. to study, get a career, save money to can support their family, he stated that he wants to

“shake the whole¬†country” and “destroy America, behalf on Al Qaeda.”

So, I’m guessing he missed 9/11? I’m pretty sure the WORLD was already shaken up by that.

What really is bothersome here about this is that, his parents spent everything, all their life savings, to get their son started to a better life. Don’t forget, Bangladesh is a poor country. Well ok, not that poor, but work is hard to find, and saving for a child’s education?, even harder. Imagine what his parents are going through right now to find that their son has plotted a stupid act, that not only disgraced his family, but the whole country as well. His father believed he was devoted into his studies. Yea..probably trying to master the study of terrorism.

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October 19th, 2012 by Sabreena

Queens Woman Killed While Crossing the Street

Image taken from NY1 news

 

On Saturday evening, girl was walking with her mother on Hillside Ave, Jamaica. The girl walked ahead of her mom and left her behind while they were crossing the street. The daughter made it to the other side, while her mom was still walking behind. And just in a few seconds, a Nassau-County bus made a sharp turn and hit her mom before she walked all the way through. The daughter didn’t realize till after. Her mom died at the scene. Always be careful when crossing the street. One second can change your whole life. Although I don’t know who they are, my prayers go to the Bengali girl and her family. It hurts to even hear a story of anyone’s death. As they say in Islamic religion after someone’s death: Inna lillahi Wa inna ilaihi Rajioon.

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October 16th, 2012 by Sabreena
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