Arrange Marriage, or Love?

Ideally, what does one think about marriage?Indian Marriage

So, as we get older, we have responsibilities to take care of and we all want to, at a certain point of course settle down. But how do we choose who to spend the rest of our lives with?

Well, if you’re Desi/brown, and a girl, then you will definitely know what I’m going for. As for you guys, at least you have a little time on your hands in this matter. Girls need to get married like ASAP!

Girls aren’t supposed to marry at 30 like Americans. After you pass a certain age, YOU HAVE TO START LOOKING FOR SOMEONE! And if you don’t find someone to marry before you’re 30, you’re most likely never going to get married. Apparently no one likes 30 year old’s!

Me?:

I’m only 22. Didn’t even graduate college (yes, I do intend to!), and I’ve already got thrown under the “find someone to marry” bus. Although there are some people I know who already got married at the age or 22, even younger, I’m not one of them. Not that I can’t find someone (well..kinda mostly that), but because my mentality isn’t like others. I don’t care much for settling down; YET at least. There are other things that need to be done before I even start joining one of those dating websites.

Everyone should definitely have a pre-marriage bucket list!

But what irks me the most is when your parents start looking! Like okay, yes they always know the best for you, but they don’t really know the other person they’re choosing for you. They could do all the background checks they want, find out their family history, check their bank account, or even find out their blood type, but it won’t be enough until you actually get to know the person.

Now that’s arrange marriage. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against it, and honestly, I wouldn’t even mind it. Arrange marriage is like an adventure. You start off fresh some someone new. But do you really wanna spend the rest of your life with them? How do you know they’re worth it? All that money being spent on the wedding could go to a nice vacation in the Bahamas. It’s simple, you don’t know if it’s worth it! More like a trial and error sort, you just don’t get that many re-do’s. But with arrange marriage, you get to learn to love the person. Just like how you don’t choose your parents or siblings, you learn to love them and spend your life with them, well not your whole life, but most of it.

As for love marriage, you know your other’s strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, and you can tolerate the other person without killing them. (Some more than others.)

The positive side of love marriage; you already love that person. And you can always find something new about them everyday. Like when you sleep with them the first time (like literally SLEEP!) Or what it’s like to actually live with this person, if you haven’t already. The possibilities of finding new things about the other person is always endless. There will be some things you hate. Then other things that just make you fall in love all over again. Make every date feel like the first date. They accept you for you. Love should be unconditional.

As for the negative, you may start to get tired of the same thing. And the thought of spending the rest of your life with that person is, scary.

But who really decides what’s right?

Here’s a con about arrange marriages; what if you don’t even get to see the person you’re going to marry till the wedding is over?! Yeah, that would probably suck! But what if they just turns out to be utterly horrible and it ends in divorce because you two were not compatible enough to spend the rest of your lives together? What if they use your past against you? What if they just don’t accept you? But then again, what if they’re just perfect for you? What if they’re “The One“??? Ah, the joys of marrying someone you knew for a month.

They say everything is written. How much do you believe in fate?

Well, all I can say now is, let the adventure begin. Arrange marriage it is. (I can already feel the regrets.)



March 24th, 2015 by Sabreena

2015

How did you start your year?

Here’s a little makeup tutorial on how I started the new year! Enjoy!

 

 



March 14th, 2015 by Sabreena

Makeup pt2!

Get the perfect eyebrows! Without actually getting your eyebrows done!

Hey guys, this is for all the lazy people who fail to get their eyebrows done every two weeks like they’re supposed to, like me. Well I’ve got just the video to cover up your eyebrows with makeup that way you can go at least a few more weeks without having to do them.

Anyways here’s the video! Enjoy!

 

 



December 18th, 2014 by Sabreena

Makeup!

Nowadays, most girls are experimenting with makeup. Some put way too much, others, not enough. When we need to learn something new, of course we go on YouTube and search for new videos to help us, change our style. Well, here’s a simple makeup tutorial for a faded smokey eye. Hopefully this helps those who have struggled to do smokey eyes. If you want to start light, this faded version will help you slowly work towards a bolder smokey eye look. Enjoy!



December 16th, 2014 by Sabreena

Religious or Nonreligious? Muslim girls nowadays..

 

Its great when a Muslim girl starts wearing a hijab after years of being non religious, but as soon as a girl takes off her hijab and becomes “Americanized” with the short shorts and drinks in her hand, that’s when i lose respect.

I’ve seen many girls nowadays, who USED to wear hijabs. Now that they are in college they forget their religion. Hijabs gone, and the short dresses are out.

Its one thing when a girl actually starts becoming religious, and gets attached to her religion. But how do you forget it later?

Taking off the hijabs for some occasions are actually okay. But taking them off, to party and drink, which is both haram, and a disgrace.

If you wear one, and you want to party and drink, don’t pretend to wear one, and take it off as soon as the party starts. Put the drink down, put on some clothes that cover your body, and walk away.

Although, those who choose not to follow the path of Islam anymore, don’t follow it, but don’t go back to being religious when you turned your back on it the first time. Just saying.

 



January 14th, 2013 by Sabreena

Girls vs. Girls ; Makeup vs. Guys

Guys always complain about how they hate when a girl wears makeup. Yet they always go after the ones that look the prettiest.

Fake hair, fake nails, fake eyelashes, and she’ll swear its “natural”. LOL

 
Guys say they love the natural look, but they would never look at a girl who looks “not attractive” without makeup. Yea, that’s logic. Although there are a few guys who go for the personality, applaud to them.

But face it, it’s not about the makeup at all, it’s about who looks prettier. If a girl is naturally flawless, then lucky her. If not, then hello concealer!!

So guys want a natural girl? Without makeup? What if she has scars on her face, that she’s forced to hide WITH makeup? What if she wears it to hide her flaws? If a girl has scars, and obviously no guy even pays attention to her, she’s going to wear makeup. Insecurities. Every girl has them. And its cause of guys a girl is insecure. Don’t get me wrong, of course we don’t call attention upon ourselves, but having a compliment here and there does make our day.

Fact #1: Some of us wear makeup, not to get attention, to help us feel CONFIDENT about ourselves. 

 

Let’s pretend: A guy goes out, normal day,

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December 29th, 2012 by Sabreena

A few of my art work.

This is what I do..when inspiration hits. Not as good, but practice makes perfect. And I will always keep trying to get better. Never give up on what you love doing.

 

by Sabreena

 

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October 20th, 2012 by Sabreena
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